You’re Not Alone

by Ryan Swanson April 9, 2012

Have you ever been up at 3 o’clock in the morning, rocking your teething baby to sleep for the third time in two hours?

Have you left your feverish child at home with your mother or a babysitter because you have an important meeting at work that you simply cannot miss? 

Have you given in and fed your toddler mac & cheese for the fourth night in a row because he’s throwing every other food you offer him on the ground and you’re worried the dog is getting fat from all the scraps?

So have I. And I have been brought to tears because of each of those scenarios (sometimes due to laughter, but more often due to frustration). I’ve also felt like no one else could possibly know what I’m going through because it seems that everyone else has this parenting thing figured out. Their child must have come with an instruction manual and I’m still waiting for mine in the mail. But I know the reality is that we’re all just doing the best that we can. It’s just that some people don’t talk about the hard stuff.  They don’t want others to know they’re struggling. Or they worry that they’ll be perceived as loving their child less if they talk about how they actually enjoy working. They’re fearful of being judged.

But that’s where I’m a little different than the next mom. I think it’s important to put it all out there. Why is it so important to me to?  Because it’s hard being a new parent, and it’s even harder when you’re bombarded with images of super-mom celebrities who lose all the baby weight in two weeks and posts from friends on Facebook who have cleaned their entire house, ran four miles and made homemade baby food before 8 a.m. in the morning. These celebrities and “friends” create a false ideal in our heads of what it means to be a “good mom” and we feel as if we’ve failed if we don’t don’t meet this impossible standard. But if you talk to moms who are honest about parenting, you’ll find that most moms are not perfect. And I am one of those imperfect moms. So my goal on this blog is to share my true experiences as a working mom. Most importantly, I want other moms to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Sometimes (or all the time…) I don’t have time to clean my house, so I hide things behind our closed guest room door when we have friends over for dinner. And the clean laundry, you guessed it, it usually sits unfolded in my dryer. I drink a lot of coffee and I don’t always cook dinner. But what I am, is a working mom with a fierce love for my child, just like many of you. And I hope my posts here help to reassure you that you’re not alone.

Being a parent gives you the greatest joys you will ever know. It also can challenge you in ways that you never imagined. Some days are easy and some days are tough. If you’re going through something, it’s likely that another mom has dealt with the same issue before.  And if you’re having a hard time, it doesn’t make you a bad mom. It makes you a real mom.

So, join me here each month as I share real experiences and hopefully “together” we will not feel alone!

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